Human nature
Teaching Hate is Child Abuse
How Children Learn to Hate Long before learning their ABCs, 1+1=2, and “Share your toys,” children learn how to be a human from the people around them. If we’re not careful — or worse, if it’s intentional — children also learn to hate. So let’s call teaching hate what it is: child abuse. A couple…
Read MoreHuman and Business Systems: The Beauty and Brutality
I love human and business systems. I’m not super proud of this fact but it’s my reality. Systems are a collection of activities, procedures, and ways of doing things repeatedly that form a pattern that is predictable and makes things easier. At least for some people. This leads to why I’m not proud of the…
Read MoreThe Felt Sense of Doula Work
I am a copywriter for a continuing education platform for psychotherapists. In my role, I meet many expert therapists who are offering courses and I learn about their work. So far, I’ve learned about: How I Learned About Felt Sense A few weeks ago, I was interviewing one of the experts about a course she…
Read MoreSetting Goals by Writing Your Own WHAT?!?!
Goal Setting In last week’s vlog, I wrote about mission statements. One of the things about a mission statement is it doesn’t include goals. A mission statement should not be specific, measurable, or time-bound. Its point is to be lofty and paint a picture of what you are working toward. But this week, I am…
Read MoreGetting Started and Finding My Voice
This is my journey of finding my voice in a society that silences women, starting with my mother’s subtle but unsuccessful rebellion. How do you bring an idea to life if your passions are silenced? Dedicated to my mom. My mom was born in 1929, when women weren’t known for having their voices heard.…
Read MoreDecision-Making Part 2: Tools
Part 2 In a 3-Part Series In last week’s blog, I shared about decision-making and how it’s not what we think it is. We tend to think it’s very logical, analytical, and reasoned, when in fact it’s a very emotion-based process. Check out Decision-Making: Faking You Out Big Time! to learn about the parts of the…
Read MoreDecision-Making Part 1: Faking You Out Big Time!
A new series of blogs on how we make decisions I read a newsletter article this week by Anne-Laure Le Cunff of Ness Labs. It was called “Why Smart People Make Dumb Decisions.” Her article reminded me that I wanted to blog about decision-making, so here we are. Decision-making is the process we use to…
Read MoreNeuroplasticity: Our Brains Are Like Clay
It turns out I have a lot to say about families… And it appears that you – my audience – like to hear what I have to say about them as well. I received so many comments after my last blog about your own families of origin, their impact (good and not-so-good) on who you…
Read MoreFamilies: The Training Ground for Small Humans
Note: The author is well aware of the range of dysfunction within families. This blog post intends to focus only on the phenomenon of families as “first teachers,” not on the content — supportive or destructive — that is being taught to children. The reader can extrapolate the profound impact of both helpful behaviors and…
Read MoreHow We Learn
I’ve been thinking lately about how humans learn. I’ve always been interested in learning and teaching. When I was a kid, I would play school for hours. I loved school and did really well, in large part becuase I was the perfect candidate for the U.S.-based educational system: I was white, I was a girl,…
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